He was born in Kyoto, the eldest son of Hosokawa Fujitaka (later Yūsai), who served shogun Ashikaga Yoshiteru. His father was a leading man of culture, versed in poetry and the classics, who would later preserve his house by serving Nobunaga, Hideyoshi and Ieyasu. His childhood name, Kumachiyo, was the same as his father's. His father's learning and worldly wisdom deeply shaped Tadaoki's life.
Serving Oda Nobunaga with his father, he fought his first battle in the campaign against Saika in Kii. The same year, with his father and his father's ally Akechi Mitsuhide, he took Kataoka Castle in Yamato, held by Matsunaga Hisahide, who had turned against Nobunaga. For this he received a letter of praise in Nobunaga's own hand and drew notice as a young commander.
At his coming of age he received a character from Nobunaga's heir Nobutada and took the name Tadaoki. The same year, on Nobunaga's orders and through his mediation, he married Tama (later Gracia), daughter of Akechi Mitsuhide, at Shōryūji Castle. The couple are said to have been close, but this marriage would later put Tadaoki to a great trial.
Though young, he took part in the grand cavalry parade Nobunaga held in Kyoto. The Shinchō Kōki says the robe of red Chinese brocade Nobunaga wore that day was one Tadaoki had sought out in the city and presented to him. The year before, his father had been granted southern Tango, and the Hosokawa house was rising under Nobunaga.
After the Honnō-ji Incident, in which Nobunaga was overthrown, his father-in-law Akechi Mitsuhide asked him to join his side, but with his father he cut his hair in mourning for Nobunaga and refused. His wife Tama, Mitsuhide's daughter, was moved to remote Midono deep in the mountains of Tango to live out of sight. This decision preserved the fortunes of the Hosokawa house.
His father retired and he became head of the house, governing all of Tango under Hashiba Hideyoshi. He took part in the Battle of Komaki and Nagakute this year, and the next year was allowed to use the Hashiba surname by Hideyoshi. Around this time Tama was also permitted to return from Tango to the Osaka residence, and the couple lived together again.
While he was away on Hideyoshi's Kyushu campaign, his wife Tama secretly received Christian baptism in Osaka and was given the name Gracia. Since Hideyoshi issued his edict expelling missionaries the same year, Tadaoki is said to have reacted strongly against it, and the couple are thought to have shared both deep love and inner conflict.
Like his father he studied the tea ceremony deeply, and as one of Sen no Rikyū's most favored pupils he was later counted among the Seven Disciples of Rikyū. When Rikyū incurred Hideyoshi's anger and was sent away to Sakai, most daimyō kept their distance out of fear of Hideyoshi, but it is said only Tadaoki and Furuta Oribe went to see him off.
In the Bunroku campaign he crossed to the Korean Peninsula and fought across Gyeongsang. He failed to take Jinju Castle in the first assault but captured it in the second battle the next year. Later, in the Hidetsugu Incident, when Hideyoshi's nephew Hidetsugu was punished, Tadaoki fell under suspicion for having borrowed money from him, but with Tokugawa Ieyasu's help he repaid it and escaped danger.
After Hideyoshi died, he clashed with Ishida Mitsunari and others and drew close to Ieyasu. He joined Katō Kiyomasa, Fukushima Masanori and others in the attack by the seven generals on Mitsunari, after which Mitsunari stepped down from his post. On Ieyasu's recommendation he was granted an additional sixty thousand koku at Kitsuki in Bungo, becoming a daimyō of one hundred eighty thousand koku.
In the Battle of Sekigahara he was quick to join the Eastern Army, influencing other daimyō indebted to the Toyotomi. While he was away, Gracia, in the Osaka residence, was ordered by Ishida Mitsunari's side to become a hostage but refused and lost her life. After the battle Tadaoki was granted Buzen and other lands, becoming a daimyō of about four hundred thousand koku.
Having entered Buzen, Tadaoki began a major rebuilding of Kokura Castle to make it a key stronghold of Kyushu, and laid out its castle town. In this way the foundation of the later Kokura domain was laid. Near the end of the Keichō era he also joined the Siege of Osaka on the Tokugawa side, but afterward declined when offered the Matsudaira surname by the shogun's house.
Due to illness he handed the headship to his third son Tadatoshi and retired, taking Buddhist vows under the name Sansai Sōryū. Tadatoshi had spent his youth as a hostage in Edo and become close to Tokugawa Hidetada and others, which helped him be chosen as heir. Versed in poetry, Noh and painting, Sansai was also famous as a tea master.
When Tadatoshi was moved to Kumamoto in Higo, Tadaoki entered Yatsushiro Castle as his place of retirement. Potters who came with him began Kōda ware there. It is said that when shogun Hidetada asked him about governing, he answered, "Rule like putting a round lid on a square box," and in his later years he is said to have mellowed.
He died at Yatsushiro Castle in the twelfth month of Shōhō 2. At his deathbed he is said to have spoken of his retainers' loyalty and said he longed for the battlefield, never losing a warrior's heart to the end. His was a life that protected his house through the violent changes from the Warring States to early Edo and laid the foundation of the Hosokawa of the Kumamoto domain.
Matsunaga HisahideSen no RikyūAkechi MitsuhideOda NobunagaAshikaga YoshiteruTokugawa IeyasuFuruta OribeIshida Mitsunari
Katō KiyomasaMaeda ToshinagaHosokawa GraciaKatō YoshiakiWilliam Adams (Miura Anjin)Ikeda TerumasaŌtani YoshitsuguDate Masamune
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Based on facts found in textbooks and biographies. Uncertain points are marked as such.